Julie Bindel can eat my ass and other assorted thoughts
I'm not going to talk about Julie Bindel. It's beneath me to address the hateful masturbatory horseshit separatist radfems spout. She can eat my ass with a spoon, and that's the end of THAT discussion.
Instead, I'm going to talk about my fellow queers for a minute.
What the FUCK is wrong with some of you?
Seriously, I saw some of the most bi-hating, misogynist shit from some of you. I'm confused, on the fence, want attention, a slut, or wanting straight privilege while having cover for gettin' some lady-action on the weekends before going home with a man?
Fuck you in the ass with a reindeer antler sideways.
You fuckstains just showed the world why so many bi men and women don't want to be associated with the tribe. If we're not being ignored, we're being shat on. I'm not sure who has it worse here, bi women or men. Probably us women because of the extra dose of misogyny we get. Bi men are simply presumed to be gay and just not wanting to admit it. But bi women are presumed to either be gay and not wanting to admit it, or straight and doing it for male attention. This is particularly true for femme bi women like me. Misogyny101, anybody?
I'm really tired of my body and my sexuality being a battleground and political football for both queers and straights who have a fucking agenda. If I'm not being attacked by christians for being queer, or for having a uterus and a sexually active vagina, I'm being attacked by my fellow queers for not being a goddam gold star. When I date men I'm invisible to the queer community, unrecognized, or even a traitor. When I date women I'm still subject to suspicion because it's presumed I'll leave her for a man so I can have straight privilege, plus I have society's homophobia to deal with. If I'm dating both a man and a woman simultaneously, like now (yeah, I'm happily poly in addition to everything else), I'm undecided and a whore. And if I date a trans or genderqueer person I'm just seen as a freak by both sides. What the actual FUCK. The misogyny, it burns.
You know, I've loved cis women and cis men and genderqueer and trans people, some simultaneously, and none of those experiences negates another. It's been a beautiful experience on the human spectrum and I'm not fucking sorry for ANY of it. Bi and pansexual people exist and are just as worthy of respect as human being as people who exist on a binary. The fundie queers' denial of that is just as hateful as when it comes from christians, and both groups can rot in hell for all I care.
This week my fellow queers have reminded me just how not-safe queer spaces can be for bi people, and how we aren't welcome in them. You douchebags make it harder for me to want to continue activism for the queer community. That's a pretty awful emotion, considering the hell I've been through so all of us could live life a little safer. I'd like to think that the L and G people I've helped by putting my body and safety on the line for their rights and liberties could at least be open enough to respect my own definition of myself.
You know who I've gotten the most support from this week? My fellow bi women, and STRAIGHT PEOPLE. Yeah, you heard me right. Straight people have been more supportive of me this week on a queer issue than the majority of the gay or lesbian cispeople I've dealt with. That should be a big fucking cluebat to the head right there how fucked up the biphobia in the queer community is.
Now I'm going to finish my coffee, get dressed, and go to work. And before I leave the house, I'm going to get a hug and kiss from my cis white male boyfriend, before he goes to have breakfast with our girlfriend, with whom I'm going to hang out tomorrow. And fuck all you unimaginative hateful assholes who think there's something wrong with that.
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