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Julie Bindel, a radfem noted for her hatred of bi women and transpeople, wrote an incoherent rambling piece of shit recently talking about how bisexual women are oppressed unless we stop sleeping with men and if we had an ounce of sexual politics we'd sleep only with women.

I'm not going to talk about Julie Bindel. It's beneath me to address the hateful masturbatory horseshit separatist radfems spout. She can eat my ass with a spoon, and that's the end of THAT discussion.

Instead, I'm going to talk about my fellow queers for a minute.

Ahem.

What the FUCK is wrong with some of you?

Seriously, I saw some of the most bi-hating, misogynist shit from some of you. I'm confused, on the fence, want attention, a slut, or wanting straight privilege while having cover for gettin' some lady-action on the weekends before going home with a man?

Fuck you in the ass with a reindeer antler sideways.

You fuckstains just showed the world why so many bi men and women don't want to be associated with the tribe. If we're not being ignored, we're being shat on. I'm not sure who has it worse here, bi women or men. Probably us women because of the extra dose of misogyny we get. Bi men are simply presumed to be gay and just not wanting to admit it. But bi women are presumed to either be gay and not wanting to admit it, or straight and doing it for male attention. This is particularly true for femme bi women like me. Misogyny101, anybody?

I'm really tired of my body and my sexuality being a battleground and political football for both queers and straights who have a fucking agenda. If I'm not being attacked by christians for being queer, or for having a uterus and a sexually active vagina, I'm being attacked by my fellow queers for not being a goddam gold star. When I date men I'm invisible to the queer community, unrecognized, or even a traitor. When I date women I'm still subject to suspicion because it's presumed I'll leave her for a man so I can have straight privilege, plus I have society's homophobia to deal with. If I'm dating both a man and a woman simultaneously, like now (yeah, I'm happily poly in addition to everything else), I'm undecided and a whore. And if I date a trans or genderqueer person I'm just seen as a freak by both sides. What the actual FUCK. The misogyny, it burns.

You know, I've loved cis women and cis men and genderqueer and trans people, some simultaneously, and none of those experiences negates another. It's been a beautiful experience on the human spectrum and I'm not fucking sorry for ANY of it. Bi and pansexual people exist and are just as worthy of respect as human being as people who exist on a binary. The fundie queers' denial of that is just as hateful as when it comes from christians, and both groups can rot in hell for all I care.

This week my fellow queers have reminded me just how not-safe queer spaces can be for bi people, and how we aren't welcome in them. You douchebags make it harder for me to want to continue activism for the queer community. That's a pretty awful emotion, considering the hell I've been through so all of us could live life a little safer. I'd like to think that the L and G people I've helped by putting my body and safety on the line for their rights and liberties could at least be open enough to respect my own definition of myself.

You know who I've gotten the most support from this week? My fellow bi women, and STRAIGHT PEOPLE. Yeah, you heard me right. Straight people have been more supportive of me this week on a queer issue than the majority of the gay or lesbian cispeople I've dealt with. That should be a big fucking cluebat to the head right there how fucked up the biphobia in the queer community is.

Now I'm going to finish my coffee, get dressed, and go to work. And before I leave the house, I'm going to get a hug and kiss from my cis white male boyfriend, before he goes to have breakfast with our girlfriend, with whom I'm going to hang out tomorrow. And fuck all you unimaginative hateful assholes who think there's something wrong with that.

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ginasketch
Jun. 15th, 2012 12:49 pm (UTC)
Whoa...people you know said this shit?

I'm sorry hun. That's so depressing.

And Bindel can eat my bisexual, mixed race, genderqueer arse.
kankurette
Jun. 15th, 2012 01:55 pm (UTC)
Thank you for writing this. And yes, it is incredibly depressing how we eat our own. I still struggle with my own queerness because of the idea that I'm not queer enough because I'm not butch enough or because I've never fucked a woman or because I've been out with more men or because I like penetrative sex. And although I'm not the greatest ally to trans / GQ people, I can try to be because I'm so sickened by the horrible way other queers treat them. I'm not expecting a cookie. It's just common decency and I feel we should stick together. Don't we get enough shit from mainstream society as it is without us turning on each other?
joasakura
Jun. 15th, 2012 05:55 pm (UTC)
thank you. <3

Also, the reindeer antler thing was frickin' beautiful.
sneezythesquid
Jun. 16th, 2012 01:18 am (UTC)
This article of hers, and a friend making a facebook group to fight it, is what lead to the big fight I posted about in my El-Jay the other day.

Julie Bindel and her supporters can kindly go die in a woodchipper that's on fire.
kankurette
Jun. 16th, 2012 07:19 am (UTC)
She may troll it. I was in a group on Facebook protesting against Stonewall's decision to give Bindel an award, due to her transphobia, and she turned up. Of course, they all told her where she could shove her opinions.

It makes me bitter that Gina and others like her are having so much trouble finding a job while Julies Burchill and Bindel and people like them get paid loads to write hateful articles about people who've never done anything to hurt them. (Yes, I hate Burchill too - anyone who attacks people with ME and is an apologist for one of history's worst mass murderers can fuck off and die.)
brin_londo5
Jun. 16th, 2012 03:40 pm (UTC)
*hugs*
Sorry you're having to go through this nonsense.
If Person A is not in a relationship with Person B, what kind of arrogant arse is Person A to presume that he or she has
any right to judge what kind of person Person B is or who Person B dates/marries/sleeps with/has hot hanging off the ceiling-fan monkey sex with?
Sheesh.
*repeats hug*
capra_maritimus
Jun. 16th, 2012 08:51 pm (UTC)
Yes, exactly. :/
reptilian_muse
Jun. 18th, 2012 12:54 am (UTC)
This is why I stepped out of the whole LGBT community years ago. The attacks when I admitted to being bi were just... incredible. And the knives thrust the deepest were by those I thought were friends. Screw that.

By the way, been trying to get in touch with you for the last week, would you please contact me? If only to let me know you're okay?
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